Anonymous asked: I really, really like your "local woman has best friends" tag. It's so cute. How long did it take to develop a circle of friends like that? Happy new year! xo
Aww thank you!! (It was so fun looking back, I actually went ahead and added a few more faves to the tag :) We all met at Tulane, most of us in our freshman year, brought together by the infinite and unknowable wisdom of dorm assignments. Some of us were friends from day one, some of us even earlier … but others, well, we took a little while to get over the initial teen girl assholeness and recognize our true destiny as best friends. By graduation, we were a unit. All but one of us moved to NYC after college and that brought us closer still.
When I think about our friend group, and I do a great deal because it’s one of the things I am most grateful for in my life, I think a few things:
- What really defines us is that we were the type of people to go to college in New Orleans (none of us are from anywhere near the south). We’re a self-selecting group. We’re down with things that are a little dirty. We can hang. We can eat and drink you under the table. We enjoy life. Don’t know why, but that’s not a hallmark of many girl groups. Too bad.
- It takes a long time to become as close as we are (we’re going on 14 years). There is no substitute for that time. I think about it when I think about newish (love) relationships. You’re so in love, you are so sure you know this guy in and out, but c’mon. It’s been a year. It’s been two years. How well did you know your best friend after a year or two years, compared to how well you know her now? It just goes to show that there is still so much further to go until you’ve reached your potential as a partnership.
- We prioritize each other. We make the time. We do weekends together and it’s for reals the best — especially now that our boys are in on it and actually seem to having as much fun as we are! (We chose well.) And as we’ve grown up, gotten married, made houses into homes, dealt with the shit life swings at you — all of these things have brought us closer, even if they’ve taken us further apart on a map. It’s been such a joy to get to know their families, their men, their dogs. It’s been such a joy to get to know THEM.
I believe there are three things you need in life to be fulfilled:
Community (which includes family and friends)
While Love and Purpose have wavered over the years, I have always had Community.
I am so grateful for that.
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