Bryan Cranston (via somethingchanged)
Oooh this is good. This, in a nutshell, is probably why M. and I fight approximately 90% less than we did four, three, two years ago. There was a time when we just wanted the other to recognize The One True Truth and how bout you fuck off if you don’t. Not the best way to build a relationship, not the best way to get through life.
But now, we can negotiate. There’s room for that. There’s room for feeling differently about things. There’s even room — maybe — for Two True Truths. Most important, there’s room to recognize we’re still pulling on the same end of the rope, to steal a terrific phrase from Emily.
Mind you, we’re still working on it, but we’re getting there.
(The other reason we don’t fight nearly as much? You just get tired of it. It’s sort of like how there was a time you thought you would never not have sex with him every time you got in bed with him. Hell, every time you got near a flat surface alone with him. And then, over time, you find you can. You don’t think it’ll happen to you, but it will. It happens to every couple. it’s unfortunate and it’s inevitable but the other side of that coin, for us, is we also fight less, and that is good. No — it’s essential.)